What You Should Know About Modern Marriage- General Views And Expectations

Couples who have just gotten married newly give their best at the genesis of the marriage and everything about the life is so new, emotionally refreshing and kind of adventurous. The thing about married life is that as time goes on you would begin to realize your roles and the fact that this life isn't a bed of roses in anyway.

As the world evolves so as human personality and lifestyle. Relationships are no longer what they used to be. Women are drastically taking on the roles of men and becoming bread winners all over the world. Women are also shouldering men in taking up very demanding career roles. This leaves a lot of questions about mordern lifestyle, relationships and in particular what is the role of the man and woman in this rapidly evolving world?

Recent studies still show that women still do the bulk of the household chores but not as much as before. Men have been forced to bend their backs to the floor and scrub, get their hands wet by doing the dishes. Men have also left some crucial house hold decision making to the women. Still yet most women still don't mind doing most of most of the chores as compared to men, despite their working class status.

Women who have married, and have this expectation that household duties would be shared between them and their partners, usually don't have a satisfying marriage and always expects more from their spouse.

With the dwindling economy and global rush, couples  have diverted away from the traditional expectations at which they usually have children within a short span after marriage but this have been altered. Couples are usually forced to rethink, restrategize on how best they can procreate , the best family planning methods to adpot and still adapt to a manageable life. Some couples even find themselves in intense arguments about whether they should have children or not.

Except in Africa and some yet developing countries around the world, some couples in developed countries usually choose not to have children and this trend is increasing as the years go by.

When You Decide To Have Children 

For those who have decided to launch children into this ever chaotic world, this is usually the most difficult time of your marriage and your relationship with each other especially women, who would be forced to have divided attention. Due the present evolution and lifestyle of the mordern woman, this is very difficult because she has to shuffle and juggle her life to adapt to all aspects of her social, personal, family and working class status.  As time goes on, the weight of this responsibilities begin to drift away. By this time lots of couples worldwide have decided to call it quits to their marriages and divorce is usually the order of the day based on the intense challenges of finances, lack of communication, extra marital affairs, and lots of other factors.

When the battle has been won and some couples still remain with each other, another enemy of man sets in and that is aging.  The best years are gone. These years were spent looking after your kids and ensuring that you have a healthy and sustainable marriage relationship with your partner which has had lots of hurdles.

As couples, you start to experience lots of physical changes, your wife becomes less attractive, this is also a period in the marriage that men are more likely to cheat on their wives because most women usually lack the luster they possessed unlike when she was young and they were newly weds.

Aging related changes occur, and these changes lead women to menopause, where by they loose their fertility at an estimated age of 50. But it is also at this stage, some couples would embrace themselves and love each other more for coming this far and encourage themselves to carry on till the end. Physical changes in marriage requires acceptance and adjustment. Usually, during this process there is more marital satisfaction , although sex is no longer as palatable like it used to be. Such spouse spend lots of time indoors reflecting on life and the challenges of being with each other.

Despite all the challenges of marriage, many people still do live happily as ever and are very much functional well into their old age in terms of scholarly, scientific , artistic productivity  and also intellectual accomplishments and this fact was studied and verified (Simonton 1990, 1997) where by couples were still productive in their marriage well into their 60's, 70's and even many years later.