At the mention of "long distance" in romance, most people would quickly relate the phrase to long distance relationship. It's one of the most popular and yet the most challenging of all types of relationships between two partners. The actual meaning of Long Distance Relationship, is relationship based on intimacy or romance, where both partners geographical locations are usually far apart, or the are significantly separated from one another by distance.
This is usually due to circumstances that either one or both partners cannot control but they still want to remain in touch, make their relationship work, so they have to practice long distance relationship until they are able to reunite.
There are quiet a lot of disadvantages of long distance relationships and just a few of them are as follows:
• It's very difficult to know the present status of the relationship when both parties are distant from one another .
• It takes significant finances to constantly maintain contact with each other, such as keeping in touch via phones, email, social media networks including skype, would require excessive internet and phone bills.
• Very low level of romance and intimacy.
• Much more commitment from both partners is required to maintain the relationship.
Cheer up! Long distance relationships are not as bad as they might seem and majority of long distance dating are usually temporary and requires strong commitment over a specific period of time.
Despite this, a lot of relationships have been strained and broken basically due to lack of communication and understanding.
Innovations and communication technologies are constantly being developed to tackle long distance relationships via social communications and media networks which has gained fast and rapid approval worldwide .
As an couples, the aim is to maintain your dating relation until you reunite with your partner. Here are a few but valuable tips to guide you through the process of long distance romance.
• Keeps Tabs On Each Other Via Social Media
Keeping tabs doesn't mean social stalking your partner, just endeavor to say hi ones in a while, like, comment and favorite each other's status, also share new photos with yourselves via tagging and a host of various other methods.
• Reduce phone Communication
Don't call each other always it would surely get boring and you would both very soon have nothing to talk about. Don't be too long on the phone. Say things that are absolutely necessary and also interesting events that occurred in your lives from the last time you both spoke to each other.
A duration of two weeks from each call is perfect to make phone communication interesting, but once a week could suffice also depending on how you like to communicate but never over do phone calls.
• Always Be Optimistic With Your Thoughs
Negative and suspicious thoughts would definitely come into your mind sometimes about your partners commitment and sincerity to the long distance relationship. You have to dispel such thoughs and think positively. Constant worrying and suspicions could materialize into reality out of your own negative thoughts.
• Send Each Other Old Fashioned Written Letters
Gone is the trend of letter writing but it's still a very romantic means to communicate . Write her a letter and post it traditionally. Tell your partner what you feel about their absence, how much you really miss them and can't wait to reunite. Don't forget to add various quotes of inspiration and love but finally, a really nice perfume that your partner knows you for should me smeared on the letter so they would get a deep sense of your presence while reading your letter.
• Get Pet Names For Yourselves
Pet names are really a cute way to spice up the gist and remind each other that there is a special bond between yourselves.
• Encourage Video Calling
This should be done once in a while and not pushed to the extreme. It's similar to phone calls in its disadvantages , but has more advantages due to its visual effectiveness. Video call each other ones in a while using Skype or other functional networks on special occasions, when you are really lonely down and depressed , you have some very special announcement to make or just for the sake of it. The standard amount of time you can video call your partner without bieng streched and bored by the distance romance is ones a week.
• Always Keep Yourselves Updated
When there's news about you or family members, it's best your partner should know first before anyone else. It would be devastating if they hear news about you from someone else. This would really discourage them from their commitments about the relationship. Suspicions could set in about your unseriousness towards making the relationship work along the line, if this is a constant practise.
• Be Sincere And Honest
All other tips are absolutely useless if sincerity and honesty are not applied also. Why waste each others time with all the chats, texts, letters and mails if honesty and sincerity is no where to be found?
• Try To Pay Yourselves Visits
This is very important. Let them get to see you at the very least, just to grab a hold of the physical reality of the relationship. Sacrifice time just to see each other and make plans to reunite indefinitely. Make the most of the moment when you visit , spend time indoors watching tv, making the much needed love, and talking into each others ears, take few trips outdoors and take lots of memorable photos. Whatever you do while on a visit, do it together.
• Don't Plays Mind Games
It's advisable you stick to sincerity, honesty, and commitment when involved in long distance. Don't play the power game where by one partner acts like they careless and the other party must always do the calling, the texting and the talking. It must be done at an equal level to make it work, else the risk of shattering the relationship causing your partner to pick interest elsewhere.
Best advice; never go into a long distance relationship if you are not prepared to psychologically tackle the numerous challenges involved. You will both be spending lots of time with other people and the one person you would like to really be with isn't anywhere closeby. For those who were able to endure long distance till you reunited with your partner, it is an unshakeable test of love.
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